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S1E3 What Forgiveness Is Part 2

Today’s episode is the second in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four more characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is our own responsibility. If we wait for the offender to ask for forgiveness first, we may never have an opportunity to forgive. Waiting for the offender to show remorse is surrendering our power and agency to the offender. 
Forgiveness is allowing God to help us walk through the pain of the forgiveness process. Instead of moving away, it’s moving toward the thoughts and emotions that are rooted in the wound or past painful experience, what I call the pain story, and asking God/Jesus to accompany us there. You can have a three-part conversation with Jesus as you move toward him in your pain.
First, tell him what happened. Jesus, so and so did this to me.
Then tell him how you feel. I feel betrayed, brokenhearted, sad, furious, angry resentful, whatever you are feeling.
Then ask him what you need. Jesus, I need you to help me through this. I need you to help me figure out a way to move forward. I need you to help me learn how to forgive this person. He hears all our prayers. Sit with Him for a while. He's patient, and he can take all of your emotions. Jesus is the Divine Physician. He has already suffered every imaginable wound we have suffered and He is with us in the present moment, waiting for us to invite him into our pain story. He knows our sorrow. We can trust in that.
Forgiveness is being willing to acknowledge the offender’s right to moral justice. Moral justice is the justice that belongs to Christ Himself. This is the hardest saying. God sees the heart of the person who committed the act, and only He knows the whole story. This doesn’t mean that we can’t desire and pursue criminal justice. 
Forgiveness is allowing God’s grace to flow through us to the other person, making us their intercessor. The Catechism of the Catholic Church #2843 states, It is not in our power not to feel or forget the offense, but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming hurt into intercession.  Our forgiveness may be what softens the heart of our offender, whether they are in a relationship with us or not. Pope St. John Paul II and President Ronald Reagan both forgave the men who attempted to kill them. Both perpetrators showed remorse afterward. St. Pope John Paul II taught us that the suffering we face in our pain story can be redemptive if we unite our suffering to Christ on the cross. This, my friends, is a gift we as Christians can treasure. 
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S1E2 What Forgiveness Is Part 1

Today’s episode What Forgiveness Is, Part 1 is the first in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four distinct characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an act of the will. We decide if, when, and how we will forgive. Jesus never forces us to forgive. He equips us with the ability to forgive through the free gift of grace to fill our hearts with forgiveness. The more we forgive, the more we will be forgiven. When we struggle with forgiveness, our prayer can simply be, Lord, I want to forgive, please help my unforgiveness.
Forgiveness is an ongoing or iterative process. We have to do it over and over in some instances, even for weeks, months, or years, depending on the situation. When we can tell the story of the pain without reliving it, we will know that we have finally forgiven the offender. 
Forgiveness is adaptive. With each act of forgiveness, we become someone new. We adapt ourselves to a new reality in which our ties to the offender are no longer keeping us emotionally bound. We now have space to pay attention to those parts that were overshadowed by the pain of unforgiveness. 
Forgiveness may also involve a grieving process for the loss of who we were meant to be or the life that we were meant to have. The harm that was done to us could have physical, mental, and emotional consequences that last a lifetime.
As you've listened to me talk about forgiveness today, I hope that you can see that forgiveness is multifaceted. There is no one way to do it. Although it is an act of the will, there is a process that leads up to that decision to forgive. When we are wounded, those parts of us that are wounded tend to be disintegrated from our whole selves. And once we can work through that disintegration and heal those wounds, we can get to a place where we can decide to extend forgiveness to the person or people who have harmed us.
In the next two episodes, I will continue to discuss what forgiveness is and following that, I will be talking about what forgiveness is not.
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S1E1 Forgiveness Is For You Podcast Welcome!

Hello Forgiver,
In this very first episode of the Forgiveness is For You Podcast, I explain why I believe that forgiveness is the ultimate path to healing from any kind of trauma. I include a brief history of my background as a South African immigrant and my own healing through forgiveness from various traumas. I hope that my story will inspire you to explore the role that forgiveness can play on your own path to interior freedom.
In the next four episodes, I will debunk common myths about forgiveness and help you begin contemplating how you can integrate forgiveness into your life.
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Share the link with a friend, take a screenshot, and share it on your social media.
Connect with me as your forgiveness guide at www.drcarron.com. I will hold space for you as your Christian Life Coach as you work through your pain and rewrite your story.
Not ready for coaching? Sign up for my 5 Days to Forgiveness Self-Guided Mini-Audio Retreat at www.drcarron.com.
Check out my website for how you can bring me to speak to your church or small faith-sharing group
Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.